http://www.anchorcounseling.com Counseling Lexington KY - Marriage and Family Counselor Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:31:33 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en We want initmacy--that is why we get married. But it is dangerous. Get too close and there is a danger of either being hurt by rejection or by being smothered and controlled. So we protect ourselves either by clinging or by withdrawing. These defensive reactions feed each other. ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/maturity-marital-intimacy/ When anger builds to an explosion, a spouse will sometimes compulsively announce that she/he wants a divorce. No divorce may be filed immediately. Perhaps the threat is an expression of overheated emotion. The danger is that sooner of later, if one or the other spouse continues to ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/if-you-are-thinking-divorce/ When anger builds to an explosion, a spouse will sometimes compulsively announce that she/he wants a divorce. No divorce may be filed immediately. Perhaps the threat is an expression of overheated emotion. The danger is that sooner of later, if one or the other spouse continues to ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/talking-divorce/ Socrates paid marriage a rather back handed compliment when he said that every man should get married because, “If he gets a good wife, he will be happy. If he gets a bad wife, he will become a philosopher.” There has always been, it appears, those who take a rather ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/good-news-bad-news-and-really-good-news/ Thirteen of the top scholars on family life have issued a joint report on the importance of marriage. The report is based on decades of research and the findings are striking. For the first time leading family scholars have issued a definitive joint report on the financial, emotional, and health ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/marriage-matters/ A Conversation about Sex and Marriage James Robert Ross with excerpts from Lauren Winner (Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity, Brazos, 2005) Lauren Winner, a young Jewish woman, made her mark as an author in Girl Meets God, the story of her encounter with Christ and her conversion as his disciple. In ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/412/ Building Your Child’s  Self  Esteem:   Sense and Nonsense James Robert Ross, Ph.D., LMFT ✹The Importance of Healthy Self Esteem Most parents understand how important healthy self esteem is to the development and success of their children in life. Good self esteem promotes success in school, the ability to make friends and ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/building-self-esteem-in-your-child/ Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you (Ephesians 4:32). Mature adults have the ability to tolerate imperfection and frustration without expecting that other people are there primarily to provide instant happiness and gratification.  On the other hand, take a look at ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/forgiveness-the-spiritual-task-of-marriage/ The ability to soothe oneself during times of tension and conflict with a spouse is critical to the maintenance of a healthy, intimate relationship.  This ability is directly correlated with the degree of one's personal maturity or differentiation.  The mature and well differentiated person is one who feels secure and ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/marital-maturity-and-self-soothing/ I had been asked the question many times:  "Do you think there is any hope for our marriage?"  The couple in my office assume that I am an expert in marital health and disease and that I can, therefore, make a realistic estimate of the chances of the survival of ... http://www.anchorcounseling.com/can-my-marriage-be-saved/