Marriage IQ

The Marriage IQ Inventory

Name Date

Rate each of the following statements according to what you really think–not what you should think:
1 = completely true
2 = mostly true
3 = partly true
4 = not true at all.

1. There is only one soul mate with whom I can be supremely happy.
2. I am responsible for my partner's happiness.
3. The differences I have with my partner can be reconciled if we both try really hard.
4. When I am unhappy, it is awful, and it is my spouse's fault.
5. If my partner offends me, I can't love him/her.
6. Criticizing or withdrawing and giving my partner the cold shoulder will make him/her behave better.
7. If my partner makes me upset or angry, it is a sign that I have a bad marriage.
8. In order to be intimate with my partner, he/she has to reciprocate the expression of my feelings.
9. Forgiveness and mercy are a weakness that my spouse can exploit to take advantage of me.

My Total Score My Partner’s Total Score

The higher your score, the higher your marriage IQ. A top score of 36 means that you really understand marriage. Anything under 25 means you have a lot to learn about the institutiion.